The following information is being shared here on my personal blog to warn other tantra Goddesses in my field against working with Rakshith Asokan of Louisville, Kentucky (originally from India).
On December 15, 2020 Rakshith Asokan who works at Pleatco Filtration in Louisville, Kentucky asked for my two hour bath ceremony. I didn’t realize how wealthy he is and out of my kindness immediately offered him a two hour session for only $400 when these services are normally priced at $500 because I must purchase the space space first.
On December 15th I sent him an invoice to be paid immediately through my trusted credit card merchant and he agreed to pay it in full. I used all $120 of his advanced deposit to secure the space in Schaumburg and yesterday morning Rakshith Asokan lied to his bank and stated he didn’t recognize the charge. My credit card merchant asked…
(Osho’s talks are relevant to the zeitgeist of the 60’s to the 90’s.He is usually answering the questions of specific individuals, and answeringaccording to the needs of that specific individual; this is why people sometimes find him to be a hypocrite.What is true for one person, is not true for another. What is true for today’s circumstances, may not be true for tomorrow’s circumstances. However, within all teachings, there are timeless, and eternal truths, for the student to come to know; they can only be found by knowing what is not always true, and therefore, what is always true. The Paradox is the Location of Zen. This is the meaning of esoteric – the meaning is hidden, not because you are not allowed to have it, but because you don’t “get it”, yet. I Love Osho, because he became a voice in my head that I argued with, until I came to some kind of revelation, and found inner peace.)
Woman Has Been Repressed Continuously
“Man has ruled over women for millennia. He has been given every opportunity and chance and woman has been repressed continuously, has been crippled. She has not been allowed to compete with man shoulder to shoulder in life. That’s why we don’t know how many Gautam Buddhas on the women’s side did not get the opportunity to blossom. We don’t know how many Albert Einsteins have simply been denied any possibility for growth.
“It is a very strange thing that even dimensions like poetry, music, dance are dominated by men. The greatest dancers in the world have been men, not women. In fact, women should have been ahead of any male dancer. But one needs opportunity. One needs education, one needs training. If you bar the whole of womankind from education, training, discipline, you are making the whole society and the whole world poor, unnecessarily poor.
“My emphasis is to give respect to women – and equality is not against men. It is a world which belongs to you both and you both have to be together to make it as beautiful and as divine as possible. Man alone – you have been creating only wars. In three thousand years, five thousand wars…Is life just to fight? Is life just to kill, massacre, rape? Your whole history is full of murder and you call those murderers your great men.”
“If all over the world the woman is allowed freedom to grow to her potential, there will be many, many women enlightened; many, many women mystics, poets, painters. And they will enhance not only the woman’s part of the world – because the world is one – they will enhance the whole world. They will give man also new dimensions because their ways of seeing things are different. Man looks at things in one way; the woman looks from a different perspective. Life will become richer.
“It is for the betterment of both man and woman that the woman should be given every freedom and equal opportunity for her individuality. Then there will be a sense of humor. And the woman can laugh more gracefully than man, she has every potential for it – but it is repressed, condemned, criticized. She has lived a life of such misery that you cannot hope that she will show some sense of humor.
“But the day is not far away…then the whole earth will be full of laughter. Instead of talks about war, instead of politicians giving speeches all around the world, instead of the sermons of stupid priests who know nothing, it will be far better that every man and every woman is able to see the hilarious side of life and to enjoy it.”
Osho, The New Dawn, Talk #31
Christianity Destroyed Thousands of Wise Women
“Christianity destroyed thousands of wise women, burned them alive. Even the name “witch” – which means “a wise woman” and nothing else – became so condemnatory…and the same happened in the East. All the religions prohibited women, and I can see that the reason is a great fear that if women are allowed the same opportunity as is given to men, they will be far ahead in the experience of God. And that is against the ego of man.”
Osho, The Hidden Splendor, Talk #22
Half of Humanity Is Deprived of Raising its Consciousness
“Man has been beating women, repressing women, condemning women. And not knowing that condemning women, repressing women is making them inferior, half of humanity is deprived of raising its consciousness. And you are deprived, because you could also have learned the art of moving upwards from half of the universe. You could also have moved on the same way, on the same path; hence I always say, the liberation of women is also the liberation of man. It is more the liberation of man than the liberation of women.”
Osho, Socrates Poisoned Again After 25 Centuries, Talk #21
Unless Women Are Liberated, Men Will Never Be Liberated
“I have accepted women for the first time on an equal basis to men. I am in favor of women’s liberation because I know that unless women are liberated, men will never be liberated. Their liberation is together, because they are two sides of the same coin. Naturally many more women have come, because for centuries they were denied, they were insulted, they were never accepted as equal to men. Naturally, more and more women will be coming – and only those men will be here who are ready to accept women as their equal. No male chauvinists can remain around me. It is a family of equal people, with equal dignity.
“If women had been respected in the past, humanity would not have been in such a mess as it is today – because women are half of humanity. Half of humanity has remained undignified, uneducated, deprived of all freedom, all movement. We have hampered, handicapped ourselves. We have destroyed half of ourselves, and if we are in misery then who is to be blamed?
“I am all in favor of women’s liberation – but not the way the women’s liberation movement is going. It is taking a reactionary attitude, it is not a real revolution. It is trying to imitate man. And remember, imitation never makes you equal; imitation at the most will make you a carbon copy – but the original is original.”
Osho, Socrates Poisoned Again After 25 Centuries, Talk #7
Man Suffers from a Great Inferiority Complex
“Man suffers from a great inferiority complex because he cannot give birth to children. It is one of the deepest unconscious inferiorities in man. He knows the woman is superior, because in life there can be nothing higher than giving birth to life.
“Man’s function, his participation in giving birth to life, is negligible. It is not more than a syringe injection. It can be done by a syringe – he can be absolutely relieved of taking part in reproduction. He must have felt it from the very beginning. And the only way to overcome this inferiority complex was to reduce the woman in every possible way to such an inferior position that man can forget his inferiority complex and start believing that he is superior.
“All the societies of the world, all the cultures, all the religions in different ways have been doing the same: reducing the woman to a secondary category of humanity not equal to man.”
Osho, The Sword and the Lotus, Talk #17
The Woman Has Been Enslaved
“Almost all the religions have denied women the possibility of entering into paradise from the body of a woman. She can be virtuous. Her husband is her god. She should serve the husband with total commitment and devotion. This is the only religion as far as the woman is concerned. This will bring her into the body of a man in her next life, and then the doors open. Then she can strive for spiritual heights. Then she can become an enlightened master.
“There are religions which don’t allow women to read the religious scriptures. There are religions which don’t allow the women to enter their temples. The woman has been enslaved. She has been reduced into producing children, taking care of them her whole life. She has not to be respected as a human being. She is just a reproductive mechanism.
“Man has done everything wrong that can be done, everything inhuman that can be done. In Hinduism, if the husband died, the woman had to jump alive into his funeral pyre. This was thought to be something spiritual. This is pure murder – and a very crude and primitive murder. For thousands of years it was a great spiritual thing, but it is strange that the man never did such a great spiritual thing. No man in the whole of history has ever jumped into the funeral pyre of his dead wife. No brahmin followed the rule that he has made for women. If it is true, then is it not very strange why the man is not doing the same?”
Osho, The Sword and the Lotus, Talk #17
There Are a Few Differences Between Men and Women
“Most of the differences between men and women are because of thousands of years of conditioning. They are not fundamental to nature, but there are a few differences which give them unique beauty, individuality. Those differences can be counted very easily.
“One is that the woman is capable of producing life; man is not. In that way he is inferior, and that inferiority has played a great role in the domination of women by men. The inferiority complex works in this way: it pretends to be superior – to deceive oneself and to deceive the whole world. So man down the ages has been destroying the woman’s genius, talents, capacities, so that he can prove himself superior – to himself and to the world.
“Because the woman gives birth, for nine months or more she remains absolutely vulnerable, dependent on man. Men have exploited this in a very ugly way. And that is a physiological difference; it makes no difference at all.
“The psychology of the woman is corrupted by man telling her things which are not true, making her a slave to man, reducing her to a secondary citizen of the world. And the reason for that was that he is muscularly more powerful. But the muscular power is part of animality. If that is going to decide the superiority, then any animal is more muscular than a man.”
Osho, The Sword and the Lotus, Talk #5
The Woman Can Be Satisfied with one Love
“But real differences are certainly there, and we have to search for them behind the pile of invented differences. One difference I see is that a woman is more capable of love than a man is. A man’s love is more or less a physical necessity; a woman’s love is not. It is something greater and higher; it is a spiritual experience. That’s why the woman is monogamous and man is polygamous. The man would like to have all the world’s women, and still he would not be satisfied. His discontent is infinite.
“The woman can be satisfied with one love, utterly fulfilled, because she does not look at the body of the man, she looks at his innermost qualities. She does not fall in love with a man who has a beautiful muscular body, she falls in love with a man who has charisma – something indefinable, but immensely attractive – who has a mystery to be explored. She wants her man not to be just a man, but an adventure in discovering consciousness.
“The man is very weak as far as sexuality is concerned; he can have only one orgasm. The woman is infinitely superior; she can have multiple orgasms. And this has been one of the most troublesome matters. The man’s orgasm is local, confined to his genitals. The woman’s orgasm is total, not confined to the genitals. Her whole body is sexual, and she can have a beautiful orgasmic experience a thousandfold bigger, deeper, more enriching, more nourishing than a man can have.
“But the tragedy is that her whole body has to be aroused, and the man is not interested in it, he has never been interested in it. He has used the woman as a sex machine just to relieve his own sexual tensions. Within seconds he is finished. And by the time he is finished, the woman has not even begun.”
Osho, The Sword and the Lotus, Talk #5
The Woman Has the Capacity for Multiple Orgasms
“When love happens, it has beauty. When it is made to happen, it is ugly.
“And while you are making love with the man on top of the woman…it is known as the missionary posture. The East became aware of this ugliness that the man was heavier, taller and more muscular; he was crushing a delicate being. In the East, the way has always been just the opposite: the woman on top. Crushed under the weight of the man, the woman has no mobility. Only the man moves, so he comes to orgasm within seconds and the woman is simply in tears. She has been a partner, but she was not involved in it. She has been used.
“When the woman is on top she has more mobility, the man has less mobility, and that will bring their orgasms closer to each other. And when both go into orgasmic experience, it is something of the other world. It is the first glimpse of samadhi; it is the first glimpse that man is not the body. He forgets the body, he forgets the world. Both the man and the woman move into a new dimension they have never explored.
“The woman has the capacity for multiple orgasms, so the man has to be as slow as possible. But the reality is, he is in such a hurry in everything that he destroys the whole relationship. He should be very relaxed so that the woman can have multiple orgasms. His orgasm should come at the end, when the woman’s orgasm has reached to the peak. It is a simple question of understanding.”
Osho, The Sword and the Lotus, Talk #5
The Man Is Afraid
“A woman is more centered than a man… She is more serene, more silent, more patient, is capable of waiting. Perhaps because of these qualities she has more resistance to diseases and she lives longer than a man. Because of her serenity, her, she can fulfill a man’s life immensely. She can surround man’s life in a very soothing, cozy atmosphere.
“But the man is afraid – he does not want to be surrounded by the woman, he does not want to let her create a cozy warmth around him. He is afraid because that way he will become dependent. So for centuries he has been keeping her at a distance. And he is afraid because he knows deep down that the woman is more than he is. She can give birth to life. Nature has chosen her to reproduce, not man.
“Man’s function in reproduction is almost nil. This inferiority has created the greatest problem – man started cutting the woman’s wings. He started in every way reducing her, condemning her, so that he could at least believe that he is superior. He has treated women as cattle – even worse. In China, for thousands of years, the woman was not thought to have a soul, so the husband could kill her and the law would not interfere – she was his possession. If he wanted to destroy his furniture, it was not illegal. If he wanted to destroy his woman, it was not illegal. This is the ultimate insult – that the woman has no soul.”
Osho, The Sword and the Lotus, Talk #5
Half of Humanity Is Kept in a Downtrodden State
“Man has dominated women for centuries and forced the idea on them that they are the weaker sex, that they cannot do anything that man can do. They can do small homely things – that is their world. I want to destroy that idea completely…
“And this is a strange way: to keep half of humanity in a downtrodden state. How much is the loss? Half of humanity means that women, if they were accepted as equal, would have produced a Dostoevsky, a Turgenev, a Chekhov, a Gorky, a van Gogh, a Picasso, a Nijinsky. They may have proved a Buddha, a Jesus. Half of humanity! It is a vast ocean to whom you have denied all possibilities of creation, expression. And you have behaved with women as if they are cattle, not human beings.”
Osho, The Last Testament, Vol. 1, Talk #19
Women’s Slavery is Automatically Men’s Slavery
“Women’s liberation is automatically men’s liberation. Women’s slavery is automatically men’s slavery. They go together.”
Osho, The Last Testament, Vol. 1, Talk #19
‘Boys Will Be Boys’
Osho, I become interested in other women besides my wife, but when my wife shows interest in some other man I become very jealous. I burn in a terrible fire.
“Men have always created freedom for themselves, but obstructed women. Men have imprisoned women within the four walls of the house and have allowed themselves freedom. Those days are gone. Now women are as free as you are. And if you don’t want to burn in jealousy, there are only two ways: one way is that you yourself become free of desire. Where there is no desire, jealousy cannot remain. And the other way: if you don’t want to become free of desire, then at least give the same rights to the other as you have. Gather this much courage. I would like you to become free of desire.
“If you have known one woman, you have known all women. If you have known one man, you have known all men. Then the differences are only in the outer form. And the one who has not known all women in knowing the one woman, understand that he is living unconsciously. Even knowing innumerable women he will not be able to know, he simply will never know. Knowing happens through awareness, and he is unconscious. He will go on chasing women, dropping one to go after another.
“Certainly you will burn, because it hurts the male ego. You think it is completely fine that you become interested in other people’s women, that there is no problem in it. We say: ‘Boys will be boys.’ Men have created this saying because they think that a man will not be satisfied with one woman, that a man wants many women, but that a woman will be satisfied with only one man. These are just male tricks. A woman should be satisfied with one man – and that one is you! But you? – how can you be satisfied with one? You are a man! You think there should be more freedom for a man…
“Your wife has as much right to her freedom as you demand for yourself. And if you find that, no, it is not right that your wife becomes interested in other men, then your being interested in other women is also not right. What you expect of your wife you should become, you should act in the same way. Only then do you have any right.”
Osho, Die O Yogi Die , Talk #8
In a Better World a Man Will Be Both, a Woman Will Be Both
“Man has been taught to be just a man: never to show any feminine traits, never to show any softness of the heart, never to show any receptivity, always be aggressive. Man has been taught never to cry, never weep – because tears are feminine.
“Women have been taught never to be in any way like the male: never to show aggression, never show expression, to always remain passive, receptive. This is against reality, and this has crippled both.
“In a better world, with better understanding, a man will be both, a woman will be both – because sometimes a man needs to be a woman. There are moments when he needs to be soft – tender moments, love-moments. And there are moments when a woman needs to be expressive and aggressive – in anger, in defence, in rebellion. If a woman is simply passive, then she will turn into a slave automatically. A passive woman is bound to become a slave – that’s what happened down the ages. And an aggressive man, emphatically aggressive and never tender, is bound to create wars, neurosis in the world, violence.
“Man has been fighting, continuously fighting; it seems that man exists on the earth just to fight. In three thousand years there have been five thousand wars. War continues somewhere or other, the earth is never whole and healthy…never a moment without war. Either it is in Korea, or it is in Vietnam, or it is in Israel, or India, Pakistan, or in Bangladesh; somewhere the massacre has to continue.”
Osho, The Heart Sutra, Talk #3
The Womb Is a Central Phenomenon in the Feminine Body
“The first thing to be understood: men and women are different; not only different, but opposites. But they are not unequal, they are equal. There is difference, there is oppositeness, there is a polarity, but they are not unequal, they are equal. Two opposites are always equal, otherwise they cannot oppose each other.
“The second thing to be understood: The female body exists for a totally different purpose – biologically, physiologically, chemically. It has a different function to fulfill than the male body. And it is so different from the male body that unless you penetrate into the deeper layers of biology you will not be able to understand the difference. They exist as if in two worlds apart. The woman carries a womb.
“The very word ‘woman’ comes from ‘man with a womb’. And the womb is so important – nothing is more important than the womb, because a new life has to come through it. The whole moving phenomenon of life passes through it; it is the very gate into this world. And because of the womb, the woman has to be receptive, she cannot be aggressive. The womb cannot be aggressive; it has to receive, it has to be an opening, it has to invite the unknown. The womb has to be a host; the man will be the guest.
“Because of the womb being a central phenomenon in the feminine body, the whole psychology of woman differs. She is non-aggressive, non-inquiring, non-questioning, non-doubting, because all those things are part of aggression. The man doubts, he inquires, he goes in search; she waits. The man will come in search of her. She will not take the initiative, she simply waits – and she can wait infinitely.“
Osho, The Mustard Seed, Talk #18
*Originally posted on my fb page that I quit using in 2018. Men hated it.
NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming is one of the world’s most prevalent methods of mind control, used by everyone from sales callers to politicians to media pundits, and it’s nasty to the core. Here’s ten ways to make sure nobody uses it on you… ever.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a method for controlling people’s minds that was invented by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s, became popular in the psychoanalytic, occult and New Age worlds in the 1980s, and advertising, marketing and politics in the 1990s and 2000s. It’s become so interwoven with how people are communicated to and marketed at that its use is largely invisible. It’s also somewhat of a pernicious, devilish force in the world—nearly everybody in the business of influencing people has studied at least some of its techniques. Masters of it are notorious for having a Rasputin-like ability to trick people in incredible ways—most of all themselves.
After explaining a bit about what NLP is and where it came from, I’m going to break down 10 ways to inoculate yourself against its use. You’ll likely be spotting it left, right and center in the media with a few tips on what to look for. Full disclosure: During my 20s, I spent years studying New Age, magical and religious systems for changing consciousness. One of them was NLP. I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum: I’ve had people ruthlessly use NLP to attempt to control me, and I’ve also trained in it and even used it in the advertising world. Despite early fascination, by 2008 or so I had largely come to the conclusion that it’s next to useless—a way of manipulating language that greatly overestimates its own effectiveness as a discipline, really doesn’t achieve much in the way of any kind of lasting change, and contains no real core of respect for people or even true understanding of how people work.
After throwing it to the wayside, however, I became convinced that understanding NLP is crucial simply so that people can resist its use. It’s kind of like the whole PUA thing that was popular in the mid-00s—a group of a few techniques that worked for a few unscrupulous people until the public figured out what was going on and rejected it, like the body identifying and rejecting foreign material.
What is NLP, and where did it come from?
“Neuro-linguistic programming” is a marketing term for a “science” that two Californians—Richard Bandler and John Grinder—came up with in the 1970s. Bandler was a stoner student at UC Santa Cruz (just like I later was in the 00s), then a mecca for psychedelics, hippies and radical thinking (now a mecca for Silicon Valley hopefuls). Grinder was at the time an associate professor in linguistics at the university (he had previously served as a Captain in the US Special Forces and in the intelligence community, ahem not that this, you know, is important… aheh…). Together, they worked at modeling the techniques of Fritz Perls (founder of Gestalt therapy), family therapist Virginia Satir and, most importantly, the preternaturally gifted hypnotherapist Milton Erickson. Bandler and Grinder sought to reject much of what they saw as the ineffectiveness of talk therapy and cut straight to the heart of what techniques actually worked to produce behavioral change. Inspired by the computer revolution—Bandler was a computer science major—they also sought to develop a psychological programming language for human beings.
What they came up with was a kind of evolution of hypnotherapy—while classical hypnosis depends on techniques for putting patients into suggestive trances (even to the point of losing consciousness on command), NLP is much less heavy-handed: it’s a technique of layering subtle meaning into spoken or written language so that you can implant suggestions into a person’s unconscious mind without them knowing what you’re doing.
Richard Bandler, co-creator of NLP, in 2007. (Via Wikimedia Commons)
Though mainstream therapists rejected NLP as pseudoscientific nonsense (it has been officially peer reviewed and discredited as an intervention technique), it nonetheless caught on. It was still the 1970s, and the Human Potential Movement was in full swing—and NLP was the new darling. Immediately building a publishing, speaking and training empire, by 1980 Bandler had made over $800,000 from his creation—he was even being called on to train corporate leaders, the army and the CIA. Self-help gurus like Tony Robbins used NLP techniques to become millionaires in the 1980s (Robbins now has an estimated net worth of $480 million). By the middle of the decade, NLP was such big business that lawsuits and wars had erupted over who had the rights to teach it, or even to use the term “NLP.”
But by that time, Bandler had bigger problems than copyright disputes: he was on trial for the alleged murder of prostitute Corine Christensen in November 1986. The prosecution claimed that Bandler had shot Christensen, 34, point-blank in the face with a .357 Magnum in a drug deal gone bad. According to the press at the time, Bandler had discovered an even better way to get people to like him than NLP—cocaine—and become embroiled in a far darker game, even, than mind control. A much-recommended investigation into the case published by Mother Jones in 1989 opens with these chilling lines:
In the morning Corine Christensen last snorted cocaine, she found herself, straw in hand, looking down the barrel of a .357 Magnum revolver. When the gun exploded, momentarily piercing the autumn stillness, it sent a single bullet on a diagonal path through her left nostril and into her brain.
Christensen slumped over her round oak dining table, bleeding onto its glass top, a loose-leaf notebook, and a slip of yellow memo paper on which she had scrawled, in red ink, DON’T KILL US ALL. Choking, she spit blood onto a wine goblet, a tequila bottle, and the shirt of the man who would be accused of her murder, then slid sideways off the chair and fell on her back. Within minutes she lay still.
As Christensen lay dying, two men left her rented town house in a working-class section of Santa Cruz, California. One was her former boyfriend, James Marino, an admitted cocaine dealer and convicted burglar. The other, Richard Bandler, was known internationally as the cofounder of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), a controversial approach to psychology and communication. About 12 hours later, on the evening of November 3, 1986, Richard Bandler was arrested and charged with the murder.
Bandler’s defense was, simply, that Marino had killed Christensen, not him. Many at the time alleged he used NLP techniques on the stand to escape conviction. Yet Bandler was also alleged to actually use a gun in NLP sessions in order to produce dramatic psychological changes in clients—a technique that was later mirrored by Hollywood in the movie Fight Club, in which Brad Pitt’s character pulls a gun on a gas station attendant and threatens to kill him if he doesn’t pursue his dreams in life. That was, many said, Bandler’s MO.
Whatever the truth of the matter, Bandler was indeed let off, and the story was quickly buried—I’ve never spoken to a student of NLP who’s ever heard of the murder case, I’ll note, and I’ve spoken to a lot. The case hardly impeded the growing popularity of NLP, however, which was now big business, working its way not only into the toolkit of psychotherapists but also into nearly every corner of the political and advertising worlds, having grown far beyond the single personage of Richard Bandler, though he continued (and continues) to command outrageous prices for NLP trainings throughout the world.
Today, the techniques of NLP and Ericksonian-style hypnotic writing can be readily seen in the world of Internet marketing, online get-rich-quick schemes and scams. (For more on this, see the excellent article Scamworld: ‘Get rich quick’ schemes mutate into an online monster by my friend Joseph Flatley, one of the best articles I’ve ever read on the Web.) Their most prominent public usage has likely been by Barack Obama, whose 2008 “Change” campaign was a masterpiece of Ericksonian permissive hypnosis. The celebrity hypnotist and illusionist Derren Brown also demonstrates NLP techniques in his routine.
How exactly does this thing work?
NLP is taught in a pyramid structure, with the more advanced techniques reserved for multi-thousand-dollar seminars. To oversimplify an overcomplicated subject, it more or less works like this: first, the user (or “NLPer,” as NLP people often refer to themselves—and I should note here that the large majority of NLP people, especially those who are primarily therapists, are likely well-meaning) of NLP pays very, very close attention to the person they’re working with. By watching subtle cues like eye movement, skin flush, pupil dilation and nervous tics, a skilled NLP person can quickly determine:
a) What side of the brain a person is predominantly using;
b) What sense (sight, smell, etc.) is most predominant in their brain;
c) How their brain stores and utilizes information (ALL of this can be gleaned from eye movements);
d) When they’re lying or making information up.
After this initial round of information gathering, the “NLPer” begins to slowly and subtly mimic the client, taking on not only their body language but also their speech mannerisms, and will begin speaking with language patterns designed to target the client’s primary sense.
An NLP person essentially carefully fakes the social cues that cause a person to drop their guard and enter a state of openness and suggestibility.
For instance, a person predominantly focused on sight will be spoken to in language using visual metaphors—”Do you see what I’m saying?” “Look at it this way”—while a person for which hearing is the dominant sense will be spoken to in auditory language—”Hear me out,” “I’m listening to you closely.”
By mirroring body language and linguistic patterns, the NLPer is attempting to achieve one very specific response: rapport. Rapport is the mental and physiological state that a human enters when they let their social guard down, and it is generally achieved when a person comes to the conclusion that the person they’re talking to is just like them. See how that works, broadly? An NLP person essentially carefully fakes the social cues that cause a person to drop their guard and enter a state of openness and suggestibility.
Once rapport is achieved, the NLPer will then begin subtly leading the interaction. Having mirrored the other person, they can now make subtle changes to actually influence the other person’s behavior. Combined with subtle language patterns, leading questions and a whole slew of other techniques, a skilled NLPer can at this point steer the other person wherever they like, as long as the other person isn’t aware of what’s happening and thinks everything is arising organically, or has given consent. That means it’s actually fairly hard to use NLP to get people to act out-of-character, but it can be used for engineering responses within a person’s normal range of behavior—like donating to a cause, making a decision they were putting off, or going home with you for the night if they might have considered it anyway.
From this point, the NLPer will seek to do two things—elicit and anchor. Eliciting happens when an NLPer uses leading and language to engineer an emotional state—for instance, hunger. Once a state has been elicited, the NLPer can then anchor it with a physical cue—for instance, touching your shoulder. In theory, if done right, the NLPer can then call up the hungry state any time they touch your shoulder in the same way. It’s conditioning, plain and simple.
How can I make sure nobody pulls this horseshit on me?
I’ve had all kinds of people attempt to “NLP” me into submission, including multiple people I’ve worked for over extended periods of time, and even people I’ve been in relationships with. Consequently, I’ve developed a pretty keen immune response to it. I’ve also studied its mechanics very closely, largely to resist the nonsense of said people. Here’s a few key methods I’ve picked up.
1. Be extremely wary of people copying your body language.
If you’re talking to somebody who may be into NLP, and you notice that they’re sitting in exactly the same way as you, or mirroring the way you have your hands, test them by making a few movements and seeing if they do the same thing. Skilled NLPers will be better at masking this than newer ones, but newer ones will always immediately copy the same movement. This is a good time to call people on their shit.
2. Move your eyes in random and unpredictable patterns.
Such NLP. So sociopathy. Wow.
This is freaking hilarious to do to troll NLPers. Especially in the initial stages of rapport induction, an NLP user will be paying incredibly close attention to your eyes. You may think it’s because they’re intensely interested in what you’re saying. They are, but not because they actually care about your thoughts: They’re watching your eye movements to see how you store and access information. In a few minutes, they’ll not only be able to tell when you’re lying or making something up, they’ll also be able to figure out what parts of your brain you’re using when you’re speaking, which can then lead them to be so clued in to what you’re thinking that they almost come across as having some kind of psychic insight into your innermost thoughts. A clever hack for this is just to randomly dart your eyes around—look up to the right, to the left, side to side, down… make it seem natural, but do it randomly and with no pattern. This will drive an NLP person utterly nuts because you’ll be throwing off their calibration.
3. Do not let anybody touch you.
This is pretty obvious and kind of goes without saying in general. But let’s say you’re having a conversation with somebody you know is into NLP, and you find yourself in a heightened emotional state—maybe you start laughing really hard, or get really angry, or something similar—and the person you’re talking to touches you while you’re in that state. They might, for instance, tap you on the shoulder. What just happened? They anchored you so that later, if they want to put you back into the state you were just in, they can (or so the wayward logic of NLP dictates) touch you in the same place. Just be like, oh hell no you did not.
4. Be wary of vague language.
One of the primary techniques that NLP took from Milton Erickson is the use of vague language to induce hypnotic trance. Erickson found that the more vague language is, the more it leads people into trance, because there is less that a person is liable to disagree with or react to. Alternately, more specific language will take a person out of trance. (Note Obama’s use of this specific technique in the “Change” campaign, a word so vague that anybody could read anything into it.)
5. Be wary of permissive language.
“Feel free to relax.” “You’re welcome to test drive this car if you like.” “You can enjoy this as much as you like.” Watch the f*k out for this. This was a major insight of pre-NLP hypnotists like Erickson: the best way to get somebody to do something, including going into a trance, is by allowing them to give you permission to do so. Because of this, skilled hypnotists will NEVER command you outright to do something—i.e. “Go into a trance.” They WILL say things like “Feel free to become as relaxed as you like.”
6. Be wary of gibberish.
Nonsense phrases like “As you release this feeling more and more you will find yourself moving into present alignment with the sound of your success more and more.” This kind of gibberish is the bread and butter of the pacing-and-leading phase of NLP; the hypnotist isn’t actually saying anything, they’re just trying to program your internal emotional states and move you towards where they want you to go. ALWAYS say “Can you be more specific about that” or “Can you explain exactly what you mean?” This does two things: it interrupts this whole technique, and it also forces the conversation into specific language, breaking the trance-inducing use of vague language we discussed in #4.
7. Read between the lines.
NLP people will consistently use language with hidden or layered meanings. For instance “Diet, nutrition and sleep with me are the most important things, don’t you think?” On the surface, if you heard this sentence quickly, it would seem like an obvious statement that you would probably agree with without much thought. Yes, of course diet, nutrition and sleep are important things, sure, and this person’s really into being healthy, that’s great. But what’s the layered-in message? “Diet, nutrition and sleep with me are the most important things, don’t you think?” Yep, and you just unconsciously agreed to it. Skilled NLPers can be incredibly subtle with this.
8. Watch your attention.
Be very careful about zoning out around NLP people—it’s an invitation to leap in with an unconscious cue. Here’s an example: An NLP user who was attempting to get me to write for his blog for free noticed I appeared not to be paying attention and was looking into the distance, and then started using the technique listed in #7 by talking about how he never has to pay for anything because media outlets send him review copies of books and albums for free. “Everything for free,” he began hissing at me. “I get everything. For. Free.” Obvious, no?
9. Don’t agree to anything.
If you find yourself being led to make a quick decision on something, and feel you’re being steered, leave the situation. Wait 24 hours before making any decisions, especially financial ones. Do NOT let yourself get swept up into making an emotional decision in the spur of the moment. Sales people are armed with NLP techniques specifically for engineering impulse buys. Don’t do it. Leave, and use your rational mind.
10. Trust your intuition.
And the foremost and primary rule: If your gut tells you somebody is fucking with you, or you feel uneasy around them, trust it. NLP people almost always seem “off,” dodgy, or like used car salesmen. Flee, or request they show you the respect of not applying NLP techniques when interacting with you.
Hopefully this short guide will be of assistance to you in resisting this annoying and pernicious modern form of black magic. Take it with you on your phone or a printout next time you’re at a used car sales lot, getting signed up for a gym membership, or watching a politician speak on TV. You’ll easily find yourself surprised how you allow yourself to notice more and more NLP techniques… more and more… don’t you think?
(For more on NLP, check out the book Introducing NLP by Joseph O’Connor or the immensely useful Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Dummies. As a bonus, here’s a great video breaking down the use of NLP techniques by media outlets on both sides of the political spectrum, from FOX News to Stephen Colbert. It gets a bit into Christian conspiracy thinking, but is VERY good information.)
First there was Emptiness. The tai chi symbol itself was used by the Taoists and dates back to the 14th century BC and possibly earlier. As if that wasn’t old enough, it’s necessary to go back even further—much further–to appreciate this symbol and its meaning. In fact, according to Taoist lore, we have to travel back to the very beginning, to the time of emptiness, when there was only the infinite void.
The void, being a void, was empty. At the same time, it also contained all possibilities. However, these possibilities could not be manifested or created into form.
The Tai Chi Creative Force. The ability to move from simple possibility to actual manifestation and form is possible through the creative force of tai chi. Tai chi is the force or place of raw, undifferentiated energy. From this place, opposing or complementary forces can arise.
Yang and Yin Energies Arise. Out of the void, and through the separation and differentiation of the tai chi creative force, two primordial and complementary energies arose: the yang and the yin.
Yang. The yang energies are associated with the radiant light of the sun as well as its fiery heat. Yang energies are expansive and shoot outward.
Yin. Yin energies are associated with the dark of the moon and closing inward for rest, regeneration, regrowth, and creativity.
Complementary Energies. Yin-Yang energies are often thought of as dualities or polar opposites. Dark-light, cold-hot, female-male, matter-spirit, earth-heaven, down-up, soft-hard, closing-opening, and yielding-aggressive are other ways of characterizing these forces. However, one can also think of these energies as complementary, and sharing a common source.
Both are equally good. One cannot exist without the other. Neither is better than the other. This equality and interplay between the yin and the yang is depicted by the equal sizes of the dark swirling yin and that of the swirling white yang.
Yin to Yang and Yang to Yin. In the symbol, yang energy is always present within the yin, as represented by the small white circle engulfed in the black. Likewise, the swirling yang energy contains a seed of dark yin energy. Just as a child can go from tears to smiles in seconds, yang energy can quickly change into yin energy, and vice versa.
Constant Change. The amount of yin is constantly changing. So is the amount of yang. Both are constantly shifting in a cosmic energy dance.
Cycles of Change. Going back to the tai chi symbol, successive slices yield ever-changing amounts of black and white, yin and yang. This, like the circular shape of the symbol, shows the cycles of change—the movements from yin to yang, and yang to yin.
This is like the constant shift of the earth between day and night, summer and winter.
The tai chi creative force and humans. Changes in the balance between the yin and yang are also reflected in the lives of humans. The idea of tai chi provides a way for an individual to balance and to integrate yin and yang and everything inside—at the mundane to the spiritual levels.
The movements of tai chi forms–with gentle rhythms of expanding and shrinking, opening and closing, yang and yin–are a way to maintain balance within one’s self and one’s world.
Practicing the physical moves of tai chi is a way to access and to implement the possibilities contained within the tai chi force–including that of personal enlightenment.
At its simplest and deepest, the tai chi symbol is a symbol of existence and the process of creation. It holds a reminder of the very best that each of us can create, for ourselves and for the world.
“A lot of people think, that the “LGBTQI+ community” is one, unified group of people.
Queers are actually a bunch of individuals, with their OWN infighting, and discordant politics; there are LGB’s who want to separate from the T+, BECAUSE: L’s and G’s and B’s are same-sex/both sexes attracted, and then there are Tschools of thought that “everyone should be pansexual!” and “there’s no such thing as same-sex!”. Or, if you’re a lesbian, your same-sex attraction is ‘transphobic’.
How does that philosophy fit into same-sex attractions and relationships?!
Then, you have trans people who want to liberate themselves from gay, lesbian, and binary politics altogether. But plenty of L, G, and B who DON’T. And within the trans community, you have those for surgery, and those against surgery. And M2F are completely different from F2M. – even trans is NOT a united front.
You also have L’s and G’s who differ in politics, and L’s who want their OWN COMMUNITIES.
Then, in that Lesbian community, you have *all sorts*… You have butches and femmes, non-binaries, fluid, and bisexuals. You have traditionals and progressives. Butches clashing with Butches. Hardcore lesbians clashing with bi-sexuals. There are also plenty of gay people for and against gay-marriage. Queers are NOT a united front. Plenty of them DON’T want to be lumped into a category, at all. Especially one that has nothing to do with what they’re into, or what is relevant to their health and lifestyle. None of the L’s, G’s, B’s, or T’s that I know, are interested in supporting *anything* harmful against children, or anyone. No one wants that. Some individuals believe trans-surgery is a form of self-harm; others don’t. Some believe getting fake boobs, or a nose-job, is a form of self-harm. Loving yourself, as you are, is difficult for many. Sometimes, it hides other psychological injuries. Some people want to be free to do whatever they want. Some people want to Heal themselves, or Heal others.
Relationships are seeking balance, everywhere.
I grew up in the queer community, and half my fam and 98% of my friends are gay. I *intimately know* all sorts of relationship dynamics, from platonic to romantic. All sides. Unconditional Love + Healthy Boundaries is where I live. ❤️”
Apart from being well-received by my usual circles of 98% queer friends, I had one friend-of-a-friend contact me in my inbox:
What have I learned since I wrote this in 2018?
I have learned that the LGB have indeed broken away from the T+ – the T+ is absolute chaos. Medically, sexually, interpersonally – and worldly – T has nothing at all to do with LGB Rights.
I have also learned that male-bodied T’s have begun infringing upon the rights of the women of the world; who are neither L or B, and completely spilling out of the “LGBTQI+” Umbrella. Thus making the T an issue that predominantly affects women, worldwide. THIS IS CLASSIC MALE-PREDATORY BEHAVIOUR. But it’s even worse for women, now, because it’s disguised.
No one was listening before this; women have been fighting patriarchy for so long. From Female Genital Mutilation (FGM), to Child-Brides; for freedom, equal human rights, and general safety from men.
Predators LOVE to hide. They’re opportunistic; they gaslight; they bully; they invade. They have criminal minds.
As mentioned, in 2014, F2M and M2F are completely different; also, technically not possible. It was just slang my friends and I used around the gay-table. I feel most comfortable using TiMs and TiFs: Trans-Identified Males, and Trans-Identified Females. Males have Male bodies, and Females have Female bodies.
In particular, these male-bodies have infiltrated female sports, effortlessly robbing women of scholarship opportunities they have worked and trained hard for, their entire lives – not to mention their safety and changerooms.
And in true, abusive-male style, women are not allowed to object. They have to submit, and play along with it; one objection, one language-slip, and they are violently abused and gaslighted – being called “transphobic”, or “terf”, while the mob screams rape and murder threats at them. All they are, is women objecting to The Naked Emperor before their very eyes, that no one is acknowledging, and expressing what the wisdom of their bodies is telling them: that they feel uncomfortable, or threatened, or unsafe in some way. “Going along” with it is known as “Fawning” – the lesser-known of Fight,Flight, Freeze – and Fawn. And I can guarantee, that most women (pansexual, straight, L or B) who Fawn about TiMs in public, have different stories to share in private. A common one, is that men who build their lives on their “white-male-privilege” and then become TiMs cannot begin to know the struggles women face in the world.
Some TiMs are sane, reasonable human-beings, who protect women, children, and reality:
“A one-sided social experiment backed by Team Weinstein.”
The Weinstein Documentary “UNTOUCHABLE”, was drowned-out by this last-minute entry to Sundance.
Oprah – Weinstein’s buddy – spent her 65th Birthday, aboard David Geffen’s Boat, with Paul McCartney (and others), watching this movie – fun times.
Safechuck claims he was abused on the second floor of a Neverland Train Station, and states – many times, officially – that the abuse ended in 1992.
He says he was dumped for a younger boy, as he grew into a manly teen.
That Train Station wasn’t built until 1994!
(The internet has receipts)
Dan Reed says that Safechuck must have got the dates wrong – he must have been abused post ’92.
Impossible with this narrative; Safechuck would have outgrown childhood (the internet has pics), MJ would have been under investigation by the FBI at that time, AND married to Lisa-Marie – not to mention: OUT OF THE COUNTRY.
Meanwhile, Robson dated Brandi Jackson for 7-8 years; they began dating Age 12, and MJ arranged for their playdate, at Robson’s request – that doesn’t support his claims in this graphic fantasy, that MJ was “grooming him”, and telling him not to trust women and girls, because they were evil.
QUITE THE OPPOSITE, ACTUALLY.
So where’s Brandi in this story?
Hang on; where’s anyone one else – at all – in this story?!
Brandi and Taj Jackson – MJ’s niece and nephew – have done some interviews sharing their sides of the story. Taj, himself, a victim of child sex-abuse, from his maternal uncle, is making his own docu-series on his uncle, and exposing EVERYTHING, over the years.
We are so lucky we have the internet, to break the spell of curated media – if you pay close-attention, you’ll see the curation leaking in, across social media, and various social experiments on the unsuspecting public – much like this money-grabbing distraction, that deflects the spotlight from LIVING sexual predators, like Harvey Weinstein, and R Kelly.
(and from the recent assassination of Nipsey Hussle, who was making a Documentary on Dr Sebi who’d cured AIDS, and then got murdered by big pharma.
Left-Eye Lopez had spent time with Dr Sebi, and was excited, devoted, and passionate to bring it to the West – but then she died…)
This Hollywood Mind-Control Experiment hurts the *real* victims of abuse, and enables predators, while confusing the public.
Confused people aren’t very effective, are they?
Aren’t very pro-active in their communities, are they?
They’re made to feel helpless so they’ll donate to a cause. A cause pointing in this direction.
Where *does* that money go?
Dan Reed, himself, admits those Train Station dates don’t add up – the internet has screenshots.
If that doesn’t tell you everything you need to know, I don’t know what does.
Oprah’s family even claim that Oprah, herself, lied about her sexual abuse and poverty, because “people like those stories”. Do you?
The *real* war, is *still* on VICTIMS of actual abuse.
Sexual, Mental, Emotional, Psychological, Financial, Societal.
Perpetrated by MEN, who hold significant positions of influence, privilege, and networking.
“Believe Victims”, the women cried, in unison.
98% of women are telling the truth.
3% of men are telling the truth.
Until Men stop ruining the world, abusing power, and wasting resources, trust only 3% of them.
MJ was too pure and vulnerable for a perverted world like this one; no one was more generous with their Heart, Soul, Charity, and Gifts.
Remember his messages, above all.
They *want* to darken the world; don’t let them.
THEY DON’T REALLY CARE ABOUT US.
(Links and pics to be added at a later date; I wrote this for IMDb and am posting it here, in case my review is not accepted there.)
*Disclaimer: MJ Fam are the good percent of men who can be trusted.
They are thoughtful, intelligent, courageous, noble, and devoted. These men treat everyone like family, and expose the real predators, to keep everyone safe.
Anyone who actually knows Wade and James is deeply ashamed of them – even James’ own cousin! And Wade’s dance students (not to mention his ex-girlfriend!).
My review is relevant to Harvey Weinstein attempting to destroy the #MeToo movement – which has been sullied by being FORCED to “Believe All Victims”.
Believe women; keep an eye out for predators.
Boys who are child victims of adult men – like Arch Bishop Pell, who is only getting SIX YEARS in a plush prison for raping children – suffer the most due to Robson, Safechuck, and Reed’s FABRICATION, full of holes… shame on them.
WHY ARE THERE 7 DAYS IN A WEEK? Because 7 is one quarter of 28 days.
28 days is one Moon Cycle.
From Empty to Full, to Empty, to Full.
The Moon is Divided, to further pin-point “time”.
From New Moon to Full Moon, is 13/14 days – 2 weeks.
And another two, from Full Moon to New Moon.
Roughly 27-30 days each Moon.
The Moon Cycle is pretty precise, and pretty regular – but not in the way that the Human Mind comprehends time/space.
Every 27-almost-thirty days, the Moon is Full – like clockwork.
Where the human-mind has the problem, is that the Moon orbits the Earth, while they *both* orbit the Sun.
This causes a 27/28 or 29/30 day Moon Cycle.
Also why the Moon appears BIG some days, and not on other days.
Half of 30, is 15; half of 15 is 7.5, which is still one week.
One week/quarter, is roughly 7- 7.5 days/Suns.
The Moon is a Sundial.
What else do we know with an approximate 30 day cycle?
Oh; that’s right: THE RHYTHM OF LIFE
“Ovulation” is akin to a FULL MOON; you can see the waxing of a new cycle with the ‘Primordial Follicles’, as the egg matures. When it is *full*, mature, and bursting with life, it busts out of the Ovary, ready to hang out in the Fallopian Tube, where it meets your Dad – or not.
The SAC (Corpus Luteum) the egg was grown in, WANES… just like the darkening moon, withering, and becoming Cosmic Compost. The Feminine Mysteries are present in this cycle, as The Triple Goddess (The Moira, from my book). I prefer to Ovulate at a FULL MOON, and bleed on a New Moon.
The Triple Goddess is known as The Maiden; The Mother; and the Crone. Waxing, FULL, and WANING. As a Meditation, this cycle can be acknowledged in ONE BREATH CYCLE: 1) New IN breath… 2) FULL OXYGEN-RUSH LIFE-FORCE HEARTBEAT! 3)…Waning OUT breath. The Goddess is in YOU. The Female has The Womb; this Temple of Life, where you lived from the moment YOUR MOTHER formed inside HER MOTHER. Even if you are boy, you lived there, and were born from this Rhythm of Life. Any harm to women, is harm to LIFE, ITSELF. HARM, to THE RHYTHM. Deal with your Goddess issues. Everyone has them, in a Patriarchy. God is NOT male – soz.
Many indigenous communities mapped only by The Moon.
– there was no need for “precise” mapped-months of a-certain-amount-of-days/hours/minutes/seconds. Heartbeats keep your real-time.
You have never not-been “happening”, NOW. Boom. Now. Boom.
Indigenous Moons were, simply, “The Harvest Moon”, or “The Cherries Turn Black Moon”, and the Moons were counted by the seasons; The First Moon after Summer. The First Moon of Winter.
Quarter Moons were maps, enough.
(and half-quarter, quarters.)
The “general global consensus”, of approx 12 Moons of 30 Days equates to the 360 Degrees of a Perfect Circle.
A perfectly mappable calendar.
The Mayan Calendar is mapped according to 13 Moons of 28 Days (for example).
And every year, after the end, and before the beginning, they have THE DAY OUT OF TIME. This “DOOT” occurs when the Sun Rises with Fixed-Star Sirius.
Total of 365 days.
It’s the Gregorian Calender that traps you in artificial time of 12 uneven Mo(o)nths, *not quite* in tune with the regular-moon.
This *could* be remedied with even-Mo(o)nths, and approx 5 days “out of time”. A great way to end and start a year, don’t you think?
The Gregorian Calendar traps your mind, your energy, your attention, and life, in Maya/Matrix. “The Illusion”.
In here, you are subject to the things that artificial time wants you to know; what’s important; who matters; who’s the boss; what the rules are; invented government; invented money; invented religion; earth-for-sale; what you absolutely must buy with your values and money-system; what is news… it’s all a lie. “A Grand Illusion”… detuned. OZ.
* I didn’t invent the calendar; I didn’t invent astronomy; I didn’t invent astrology: I witness.
And if you *don’t* understand this^, you can’t “astrology” – and this is why: IT’S COMPLICATED.
It’s an endless study of maps, cycles, orbits, maths, concentric rings; ellipses; geometry; physics; Light; psychology; archetypes; storytelling; alchemy; chemistry; wonder; awe; magic; alignments; aspects; revelations; discoveries – and more.
I want to show you something really cool; you can read about the Venus Synodic Cycle, here:
All of its creations emanated from it in numerical energetic order.
(A magical order unseen)
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
And thus everything is built from the infinite combinations of itself.
It’s as if I have a unique ‘phone number’ that dials back to the origin of my creation.
Perhaps I am a 1 1 1 1
or a 1 2 1 2
or a 1 2 3 4
Whatever my ‘number’ it can be dialed; it can be resonated…like music… My entire being can sing the sound of me.
And this thing known as chaos; it is movement. Without it there could be no combining of numbers. For they would remain in order. Stagnant.
For example, myself.
The mathematical summation of:
The year I was born + the number of the house I live in.
The numbers I notice + the people I meet.
(Now equals number combination’s the brain cannot fathom)
The hugs with others, the grass, the trees, the birds, the rain. The music and the dance. A solo experience shared of a beautiful maths. For I began at zero, so must everything else. Everyone else.
All ancients made stories to understand.
Another story I like coz it’s pretty is the Fabric of Life.
An individual strand. Like your own number thread.
Imagine…how beautiful… a dense cord of colour/number/sound/texture energy. Vibrating musical notes. Building textures from the origins of energy. Complex born unique from simple zero. Origin of all. You know? As above so below- In La’kesh-etc
Imagine you are a threaded needle; walking around, dancing, hugging, smiling at strangers, shaking hands…
‘…go Under the Ivy’ ~ Kate Bush
Imagine your thread – mine might be a strong, wooden, brown vine, abundant with Ivy – green leaves entwining, vibrant pink-red roses – always renewing, revealing honey-gold light dew-stars from their hearts. Unfolding and enfolding. Breathing with life; pulsing with movement. Imagine the singing…
‘…becomes The Rose.” ~ Bette Midler
Every time I hug another, I feel as if the threads hug also, weaving together this ‘fabric of life’; our songs harmonize, creating a new sound. Or they don’t harmonize, yet still – a new sound.
Sewing a moment together in time. Weaving forever, moving forever, dancing forever.