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Just a thought…: Chaos and Harmony

Chaos is blind, but Harmony thinks it beautiful... "Chaos at the Heart of Orion" ~ Hubble/NASA

Chaos is blind, but Harmony thinks it beautiful… “Chaos at the Heart of Orion” ~ Hubble/NASA

(circa August 7, 2010)
Life is about the oscillating choice between these two primal forces.

One is free to choose – Chaos or Harmony?

Choosing both is probably the neutral point of non-dualists, who sit amidst the constant bubbling and erupting energy of these creative primal forces; who are in constant relationship.

Choosing Harmony is not denying Chaos – it is ‘choosing’ Harmony.

The way I see it, Chaos’ default destination is Harmony; and the path of Chaos denies Harmony.

Everything in This Universe that has at once been chaotic, has eventually settled into Harmony (if not, it is inert, arrested, or in the process of aligning…)

So, one can choose the path of learning this – and continue to oscillate between faith and separation – or, one can choose Harmony with absolute faith, and just go with the flow… and learn to ride the alignment wave… and admit Chaos. I would reiterate the historical point: “Follow your Bliss”.

Again, I bring it back to “…there is only illumination and ignorance…” (Thank you for that one, Shirley MacLaine – and Guides!). They are in constant relationship, for ignorance receives illumination. Reception is the opportunity for the growth of expansion – is this not the aim of This Universe?

I would say that ‘choosing’ Harmony leads to Illumination; and Chaos, eventually, leads to Harmony.

So, just a thought… what say you – my Divine Counterparts?

*…In La’kesh…*


WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE PATRIARCHAL PYRAMID?


Anahata chakra, the Heart chakra, is the seat of balance within the body.
It is the Sacred Meeting place of Rising, and Descending; ma and pa cosmos.
The Alchemy of Matter and Spirit; material essence, and spiritual awareness, unified.

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“Anahata chakra has twelve vermillion petals. The Yantra in the centre of the chakra is composed of two overlapping, intersecting triangles.

One triangle, facing upward, symbolizes Shiva, the male principle.
The other triangle, facing downward, symbolizes Shakti, the female principle.
A balance is attained when these two forces are joined in harmony.”
~ http://www.tantra-kundalini.com/anahata.htm

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SACRED SEX

IN THE SPIRIT OF THE SEASON… Happy Valentine’s Day!
According to the Hindu, today is MahaShivaratri: The Divine Wedding of Shiva and Shakti.
It is still the season of Lovers… Psyche & Eros & Mars & Venus are all in Pisces, and Mars & Venus are getting closer by the day, for their Cosmic Kiss…

So, in honour of Divine Union, here is my brand new book: The Sacred Sex Manual
A beginner’s guide to Authentic Tantric Sex Magic.
Power to the People.

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It was going to be an article for a popular .com but it was way too long for an article, and we couldn’t get on the same page about it… so I made it into a short ebook, instead.

“Know thyself, and ye shall know the Universe” ~ Pythagorus

You can sample a portion of it on the site for free.
Be sure to share this with your Lovers, and potential Lovers… 😉


THE HIGH ROAD vs THE LOW ROAD

This post is inspired by a chat I was having about something JEFF BROWN wrote:


Are You in a Conscious Relationship?

One of the beautiful things about the conscious relationship movement is that couples stay together and work things through when the shadow arises between them.

Where before many people gave up on relationships that became difficult, we now understand that we all have unresolved issues and patterns that are brought to light in powerful love connections.

Like a flashlight to the dark crevices of our consciousness, that which is not yet healed reveals itself to be resolved.

To walk away from those connections is to delay our own expansion.
At the same time, some of us make the mistake of thinking that we must attempt to work through every relationship that excavates the shadow.

This is particularly true for those with co-dependent tendencies because they are constantly looking for reasons to remain fused, even if they are beyond the point of resolving their differences.
Conscious relationship does not mean that every relationship is worthy of our conscious attention.

Some are exactly what the soul doctor ordered, and others are deeply unhealthy.

The art form of relatedness is distinguishing between the two. ॐ
~Jeff Brown

Particularly, I had this to say:

“Where before many people gave up on relationships that became difficult, we now understand that we all have unresolved issues and patterns that are brought to light in powerful love connections.

To walk away from those connections is to delay our own expansion.

At the same time, some of us make the mistake of thinking that we must attempt to work through every relationship that excavates the shadow.”

Such a voice of Clarity on the Power of Love. (Jeff is GREAT – a Cure for the psychic pollution of “the New Age”)

Escapism; Denial; Co-dependence; Shrinking; Fear…

Le Couer… COURAGE. Is not the absence of fear.

Love knows what it’s doing, and I wish people would remember to Surrender to that.

The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.
You hurt others, you hurt yourself. You enable bad behaviour.

Toxic partners are poison. You have a duty to the future to make them aware of their True Reflection; to leave them better than you found them – but to LEAVE them.
Nothing grows in toxic foundations; everything dies. Including you.

“The Secret Ingredient here, is: Boundaries.

 

Boundaries are an Art of Measure.”

The Secret Ingredient here, is: Boundaries.
Boundaries are an Art of Measure.
Some people’s Boundaries are too tight, and others’ are too loose.
And I am writing this, to elaborate on all of that.

Too loose, and you’re hurting yourself.
Too tight, and you’re hurting others.

IN RELATIONSHIP, “THE LESSON” IS ALWAYS BOUNDARIES.
Fast-Forward to your Graduation!
You may now stop re-living the same nightmare over and over with other partners, in order to “learn that lesson”.

POWERFUL LOVE IS HEALING:
It exposes our Shadows, to others, to ourselves. True Love is Illuminating, and Penetrating.
It brings you Clarity.
It is your Mirror.
“To walk away from those connections is to delay our own expansion.

…cowards.
Point being: not ‘just’ your expansion…

THE HIGH ROAD vs THE LOW ROAD
We EXPAND into The High Road.
We CONTRACT into The Low Road.

The High Road, is the path that is Aligned with The Grand Design.
I don’t have time to debate whether there is or isn’t a Grand Design – there is. You will download that realisation once you become realised. Look at the little pentagon when you pluck a grape from the vine.

The High Road is MACRO-Vision. The Medicine of The Eagle. The Eternal Soul. Cause and Effect. The Great Cycles.
“As Above, So Below”
The Low Road is MICRO-Vision. Simply; your little world, with your job, and your friends, and your house, and your family. You, You, You, Mine, Mine, Mine: The Ego. Your name and temporary person, who is destined to die.

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“I Love a Man that turns around.”

MACRO-Vision can see the whole picture; the above, and the below.
MICRO-Vision sees only ‘the below’; the potential for separate things. It has NO COMPREHENSION of the Cohesive Macro-Vision.

To travel The Low Road, is to live, and die, and make very little impression upon any other living thing. Not even your offspring; life’s default back-up programme is it’s Lust for itself. (It would just be nicer if it were ‘conscious’.)
Unfortunately, this ‘default’ pattern has been repeating over the aeons (Samsara), and severe damage is being done to our Host-Planet. Unconscious Impressions. Either the entities who run, design, and perpetuate this civilisation are micro-focused, OR they are evil aliens with a precise agenda. Whatever it is, it is NOT good. But only Macro-Vision can see that.
So, just like those who’ve gone before, you’re welcome to The Low Road if that is your wish.
It’s a little bit like a movie… it’s fun, it ends. You die.

To travel The High Road, is to EXPAND into the Unknown. Nothing is certain, except that your Life will ripple out and touch the Lives of others.

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“Moira” is The High Road

The High Road is Aligned with the Grand Design. It is not the way of Ego and Control. It is the Path of Surrender.
– and That is The Great Big Fear.
Surrender.
Of the Ego, to your Soul.
All you do, is switch pilots…

Face to face with another – consciously – is the greatest Potential Expansion there is.
Facing your TRUE SELF in the Mirror. *note: NOT projections. That is UNconscious, and annoying.

Anyone who doesn’t want you because you’re “too damaged” (from before learning about your Lovingly loose boundaries) can go fuck themselves.
They are AFRAID OF THEMSELVES. Not sweet beautiful you. ❤
They don’t want to grow up.
They want Sunshine all the time, happiness, and laughter, “easyness” – not the Raw Unedited Truth of Existence.
They don’t want to look in the mirror – they want to project UNreality on to you. Don’t allow it.
Or worse: they’re just an asshole. Here’s hoping they never have a Pluto Transit.

* please note: if you *think* you’re in Love with someone, and they’re not returning it, one of two things is happening:
1) Your Ego is driving; your radar is off: you are lost, and actually just obsessed, hungry, or desperate – and it isn’t Love. It’s just attraction, trying to show you your way back to yourself. You’re not seeing ‘clearly’.
2) Their Boundaries are too tight, they are rejecting LOVE TRUTH CLARITY – not you – and you will have to “Return To Sender” to get on with the re-calibration of the Universe.

It is constantly recalibrating; you can trust it. That's why everything is in perfect order; or will be, again. Hang on to your True Self; your *~ glittering ~* way; the golden thread; your Bliss. OM *~ <3 ~*

It is constantly recalibrating; you can trust it.
That’s why everything is in perfect order; or will be, again.
Hang on to your True Self; your *~ glittering ~* way; the golden thread; your Bliss.
OM

It is in Surrender, that we are filled with the flow of “The Absolute Power”.
Let’s call it “Love”.

Love is a River, and it has it’s destination.

That’s why it is possible to be a vessel of Love.
Ultimately, “Love will save you.”
That’s why “The Lover is The Saviour.”
*please remember that True Spiritual Ecstasy was hijacked by the church. Love is God. Lovers are Saints.

(I Love Fan Videos. 🙂 People put their Heart in them) …*Note: “Prayer to St. Francis” by Sarah McLachlan is not available in Australia. 😦

ATTRACTION

To quote myself:

“Love knows what it’s doing, and I wish people would remember to Surrender to that.

The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.
You hurt others, you hurt yourself. You enable bad behaviour.”

Back to BOUNDARIES:
These are the Tai Chi ~ the on/off ~ the towards and away ~ Giving and Receiving ~ The Art of Relating.

IF YOUR BOUNDARIES ARE TOO LOOSE: You hurt yourself.
How?
Too much GIVING, not enough SELF-Giving, and RECEIVING what YOU want.
Where is the Self-Love?
Would you let someone treat you this way?
You deserve to be Loved the way you Love.
The Lesson is always Boundaries.
Loose is the Way of the Lover.
The Way of Trust. Openness…
The Unconditional acceptance.
The Ever-Giving Heart.
You are enabling bad behaviour every minute you allow yourself to be disrespected. You aren’t helping them; you are teaching them that it’s ok to treat people this way. And they will continue to do it to others – don’t you want to protect the world from being treated like that?
Don’t you want to stop it in its tracks?
You are stunting your growth on a child in an adult-body. You are lowering yourself to help them up. They don’t want to come up, and will cut you down every time you try.
You deserve an equal.
“But if no-one helps them, who will?”
You have obviously never heard the tale of the drowning person who WILL drown you, too.
Say it with me: “I Am a Lighthouse. Not Search & Rescue. I Am a Lighthouse. Not Search & Rescue. I AM A LIGHTHOUSE. NOT SEARCH & RESCUE.
If they wont meet you in The Sacred Middle, where are you?
You’re in THEIR world.
We need you here, in Alignment.
The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.”

IF YOUR BOUNDARIES ARE TOO TIGHT: You hurt others.
How? – do you even care? lol
Maybe you do, maybe you don’t; there are two of you, or you’re often ‘split’.
Maybe you give what you want to give – but not necessarily what others want, or need.
Maybe you don’t receive what others want to give you.
If you Love to give – and be received – then receiving is a gift, too. You should try it sometime…
That includes really listening; not just hearing what you want to hear.
Did you ever think that people might actually need you?
That you really are that valuable.
That you matter more to The Universe than you think you do?
You are shutting the world OUT.
Depriving it of Alignment. Whether you can see it or not, you are. Starving it of your Unique Essence.
You are single-handedly preventing Expansion of The Universe. You are that important.
With Boundaries too tight, you are the Living Embodiment of The Low Road. Deaf, even.
Not everything is about what you want; you have so much to offer others about Boundaries… about things we don’t even know.
You are Tantra waiting to happen.
The Flow needs you to open up and let it in.
We need you, here.
If you chose CONTRACTION – or ended up that way – you’re just afraid. Wounded. We all are. And the more out of alignment we are with The Grand Design, the longer we remain wounded…
Relax.
Breathe in Contraction, Breathe Out Expansion.
Breathe in Contraction, Breathe Out Expansion.
Breathe in Contraction, Breathe Out Expansion.
Do that all night.
Open up.
Find someone you can trust, and just start a conversation… start to learn who is expansive, and who contracts.
Protect Expansion, and Heal Contraction. Treat them how you may have wanted someone to treat you in your contracted state.
Go into their world, and pull them out.
Leave at the first sign of drowning, but don’t give-up on those who are learning to swim.

* please note: there is nothing wrong with privacy and alone-time. That is the Art of “Healthy Boundaries”.
While The Low Road may hide in constant comfort and paralysing safety, it’s not like “you can never rest on The High Road!”
That’s what The Art of Sanctuary is about; take a moment, go backstage, replenish, refresh, restore, re-script, recalibrate, re-womb. Rest. Dream… and be reborn.

THEN THERE ARE THE COMPLACENT ONES:
You know you don’t belong together, yet, nothing better is going on And you’re so comfortable.
You are both enabling the misalignment of The Universe.
You are robbing other people of their “perfect match” by occupying space you know you don’t belong in.
The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.

If your radar is ‘off’, it will be your Ego in the Driver’s Seat. “Lusting”. Cheap Thrills, Ego Boosts, and Power Games.
Ego relationships rule the Microcosm. They shut-out the FLOW for fear of disruption, of loss, and change.You can be in charge of your micro-cosm, to a certain ‘comfortable’ degree of compromise.

When you Love someone, do you fear their shadows? NO.
Then why would someone not be capable of Loving yours?

“Healthy Boundaries”

Or as my X-Beast used to howl: “What’s the point in doing all this if no one else is doing it!”. He just wanted to drink Pepsi and race cars. “I don’t wanna know! I just wanna make mistakes and figure it out myself!!”
“I’ll see you at the Finish-Line.” I told him. I don’t think he got it; like, I’m already there. Waiting.


THE LONGEST DISCLAIMER IN THE WORLD

DISCLAIMER: there are many articles on “conscious sexuality” out there, raising passionate debate and heated outrage in the name of ‘sexism’. It is my finding, that people who ark up about the “equality of the sexes”, have yin and yang planets in harmonious or unified aspects. In their world, the sexes are equal. There is also a breed of genderless people; Androgynous, Angelic, Alien – they also have these yin and yang planetary placements. So, to you, I say: you are not my “target” audience. You may read my articles with yin and yang eyes, and find yourself amidst its wisdom, and add your own in any of the comments. This is Tantra: getting to know people who are not you.

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These Symbols, written in the UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE, transcend the limits of our Language… Hint: they are NOT 2D. The River… between them… is The Sacred Middle. Tantra.

BUT ANDROGYNY AND EQUALITY IS NOT THE CASE FOR EVERYONE.

In other people’s worlds, the sexes aren’t always ‘equal’, they are complementary; two halves, in teamwork. (-and “she” can “wear the pants”. Too. Some heterosexual-couples might even identify as lesbians, unbeknownst to you – especially with Venus, Moon, or Psyche contacts.) There are EXTREME masculine and/or feminine people in the world, who want to understand each other, and be in relationship with one another, who have been split in half by aliens/religion/tradition/society/nature/ – whatever – and do not have harmonious yin and yang planets/psychology. In these articles, mostly, I see over 90% of Women trying to educate men on how to be in relationship/s with them; failed Love has turned her Humanitarian. Her Lover is so far away (in distance and consciousness), that everyone is caught in her beam. I see public lectures to useless old boyfriends who refused to *~ EXPAND ~* “Female Teachers” are, in fact, a Yin/Yang. Teaching, and Illumination, are Active, Yang Energies. Giving.

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Not 2D

As are Male Students: “receptive”… Yin Men. Because – classically – Men are Mars, and Women are Venus, and Mars is War/Sex/Self and Venus is Love/Relationship/Harmony. He wants to find his own way without any help from anyone – solo-mission into the unknown, discover shit, make mistakes, and figure it out himself; and She wants to Love, and Team Up, and become a Power-Couple who get WAY more done – together – than his “Pioneer Mission” can ever even hope to achieve on his own. Because he can see what he wants, and go straight toward it – but she can see everything, everywhere… Everything he can’t. Of course we all have male and female and Love and War and are all made of sperm and egg: Mother-Magic-Father. Cosmic Mother and Father energies are Yin and Yang – we all have them to varying degrees of balance and imbalance. These “conscious sexuality” articles are written by people (mostly women) attempting to educate the world on the art of relating. If you find you are irritated by the tone of these articles: WRITE YOUR OWN! Be a voice for your own minority, and post your article on the comments of other articles you find, so others can find them. If you are a reformed useless X-boyfriend, share your awakening. If you’re Androgynous, teach us how to Love YOU. If there’s a hole in the world, what are you going to do about it?

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YIN AND YANG/SRI YANTRA/TAI CHI/HUNAB KU http://www.beginnerstaichi.com/tai-chi-symbol.html

Because if they’re not in communication, they’re in chaos. And this is Tantra: The Balance of The Cosmic Forces.

And the only reason that no one “wants” to be a “feminine” is because reception does not get the reception it deserves. It is a CONSCIOUS GIFT to be received. An ALLOWING. It takes great courage, to CONTINUALLY and CONSCIOUSLY open up, and flower, and bloom. Radios are receivers. To be receptive, is to receive your environment, the entire Cosmos. Wombs Lovingly and Willingly receive New Life. USB sticks receive data. So even though the days of Doris Day and John Wayne are over, Doris and Wayne still exist. And maybe they are attracted to each other. And maybe WE can help them understand each other. Because, according to these 90% of articles, Doris has found her inner cowboy, but Wayne still refuses to sing. LIVING EXAMPLE: my Venus in Virgo in the 11th House, means my Love is a Priestess, a Healer, a Teacher – and part Alien. Like, from the Future, or Outer-Space. Eccentric, electric, inventive. My Love is Humanitarian. (but enough about how great I am – lol) My Mars in Cancer in the 8th House, on the other hand, is a Feminist, Alchemist, Intimist, and Sexual-Energy Transformer. I protect Feminine Energy, and I fight for Mothers, and women, and sex, and Tribe – and Sanctuary. For Grandmas, Grandpas, and The Cycles and Secrets of the Womb, and of Life and Death. So you see, I am mostly of a “feminine” persuasion. A Feminine Warrior/Alien Priestess. My inner John Wayne is a Cosmic Cowboy and Goddess Worshipper. My Love and War are also in a sextile aspect, meaning they are a team, and a force to be reckoned with: Priestess and her Conscious Cowboy. * IN THE FUTURE I will also do short “John & Doris” astrology readings if that’s a reflection you’d like to have for yourself; and I’ll check the health of your Team Venus/Mars. I’m so busy right now, and will edit this part when I’m ready. Yee-hah!


#IDontWantToHaveSexWithYou

I don’t want to have sex with you.
Your erection, is not my responsibility.

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If this is news to you, here are a couple of suggestions:
1) Learn how to develop human connections through the art of conversation. Ask interesting questions. Have interests.

2) Learn how to channel your sexual energy into other things, by using it as fuel for your Life; connect it to your Heart, circulate it through your body, connect it to your mind, fuel your art, creativity, and community projects.

3) If it’s uncomfortably overwhelming, go and masturbate in the bathroom and come back out for at least 5 minutes more erection-free conversation.

4) Maybe your Navigation is all off, and your erection leads you astray. Get aligned with your Body, Mind, and Spirit.

5) Go and find someone who shares your mutual desire for casual, meaningless sex.

So this is dedicated to all the boys with only one thing on their mind: sex.

I don’t want to have sex with you.
And I don’t owe you an explanation.

Personally, if I want you, I’ll let you know.
But some girls might not feel so comfortable doing that.

Maybe she hasn’t found her voice… so on behalf of her, here are some of the reasons why she doesn’t want to have sex with you:

Maybe she just wants to be friends.

Maybe she wants a relationship.

Maybe she wants to build a relationship based on friendship and shared interests.

Maybe she went to a girls school, and boys and men are aliens to her.
Maybe she has no brothers, no father, no uncle, no male friends, at all. Maybe she only knows the company of women.
Maybe she’s scared of you.

Maybe she wants a real man.

Maybe she’s sick of raising men.

Maybe everyone finds her beautiful, except herself.

Maybe she’s tired of being bothered by boring men trying to fuck her.

Maybe she’s just a friendly person.

Maybe she’s a Lesbian.

Maybe she already knows you don’t have what she wants or needs.

Maybe your clothes smell like stagnant washing. Maybe this already tells her all she needs to know.

Maybe she was sexually abused as a child, and will never get over it. Or maybe she will. Maybe she hasn’t decided, yet. Maybe she doesn’t know how.

Maybe she has body-issues.

Maybe she wants to fall in Love, get married, and have babies.

Maybe she doesn’t want to get pregnant, doesn’t want to take the pill, and hates condoms.

Maybe she needs Sexual Healing.

Maybe she’s only ever been raped, and has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Maybe she doesn’t know she has it. Maybe no one has ever let her talk about it, and she’ll never speak again.

Maybe she was seduced by too many older men in her twenties, and will never trust again.

Maybe her Heart is bruised.

Maybe she’s just here for the music…

Maybe she feels pressured to be happy. And smile. And not cry.

Maybe she’s a virgin, and you’re not the one.
Maybe she still believes in Love.

Maybe she wants to Make Love.

Maybe she can’t have what she wants; so there’s nothing that she wants.

Maybe she has her period.
Maybe she’s not in the mood.

Maybe she’s in Love with someone, right now. And it’s breaking her Heart.

Maybe she’s tired of shit boyfriends.

Maybe she’s tired of attempted rape.

Maybe you’d find all of this out if you cared to get to know her. No matter how long it takes.

I don’t want to have sex with you – no matter what I’m wearing.

Maybe she learned to get dressed from magazines and tv.

Maybe she DIDN’T buy her boobs, and doesn’t want to talk about them – even if they’re breathing. Even if they’re radiating.

Maybe she hasn’t learned how much strangers like to talk about them, because she’s used to being surrounded by people that treat her like a person.

Maybe she’s naturally classy.

Maybe she has no idea how hot she is. Maybe looks don’t matter to her.
Maybe you’re the pervert.

Maybe she just had to wear something, because society doesn’t make clothes that fit her.

Maybe she has no idea about fashion, and  doesn’t care to.
Maybe she does.

Maybe she likes to dance – and dresses for the occasion.

Maybe her clothes reflect who she is.
Maybe they don’t.

Maybe she feels peer-pressured, or is just trying to fit it.

Maybe she doesn’t know that she’s in for a life of being sexualised yet…

You can’t go wrong with friendship.
Stop thinking about your penis, and meet people, and ask the kind of questions that bond two people together.

Now that you know some of the possible reasons why she doesn’t want to have sex with you, you can hold all of that in your Heart, and ask inquiring questions.

Or you can throw in some deep statements, and walk away for a while.

Things like, “I’m not afraid of your darkness.” and walk away.

“Maybe you could tell me about it, sometime.”

“I only like deep people.”

“I’m always interested in new friends.”

She’s a person, and your erection is your responsibility.

If you learn people-skills, maybe she’ll WANT to touch you. It’s not about having to convince someone you’re worth it. Prove it.

Be interestED:

“Do you like casual sex, or do you prefer relationships?”

“What do you like about casual sex?”

“What do you like about relationships?”

“Do you feel confident enough to share a strong foundation of Love with someone, and an open sex-life, or are you more monogamous?”

“Parents together, or separated?”
– this will give you a good indication as to whether this person believes in Love, or not.

“Do you like books? What is one that really stands out? Did it teach you anything?”

“Do you watch movies?”

“What do you Love? Kittens, Rainbows, Holidays, Psychology… Money? What would you do with money?”

“Do you write? You look like a writer. You look deep. Where can I read what you’ve written?” Because if you’re interested in her, you’d like to get to know her mind.

You can talk about your sister, or your mother, or your dreams and aspirations.
Offer interesting and relevant things about yourself.
Talk about the last book that taught you something.

Ask her about her Heart. Find out what she Loves and Values.

“I really like deep conversations, but we’ll have to get to know each other better for that.”

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Just Ask.
And if she doesn’t want to talk to you, don’t hang around. Go away.
You can try coming back one more time, later, to see if she missed you.
And if you do it a few times, each time making sure it’s long enough that she’s forgotten about you – maybe even thought you’d left – you might begin to grow on her… and maybe she’ll want to be friends.
And then you can learn why she really doesn’t want to have sex with you.

If she doesn’t want to be friends, don’t push it, and understand NO.
Maybe she never wants to share again.
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