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Do-be-do-be-do…

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In this little ditty, hides all the ingredients for creation: The “Do”, and the “Be” of existence.

To DO is Yang: To Take Action.
To BE is Yin: Surrender to Reception.

It is a common, linear, 3D habit to divide Yin and Yang in two – but they’re really One: yinyang, yangyin.
They *dance*

“Do-be-do-be-do…”

It is also quite a popular and common theory, to claim that Doing is better than Being – or, in some cases, that Being is more noble and purposeful than just brainlessly Doing.

Ideally, they *should* be dancing…

According to this theory, Doing is productive, and Being is lazy.

Yet Being is a state of receiving one’s True Nature and Purpose. To Be who you were born to Be – without the force of the false personality, or pressures from the imbalanced society.

To Do is Solar.
To Be is Lunar.

The trick is, to combine the two into a Life-Flow ~ To receive oneself, and ACT upon it. To act – To Do – from the forced, false self, is to imprint upon the canvas of the world with ego, and temporary, short-sighted vision.
To Be, without Action, is to make no imprint, at all.

To Do, with ego, is to deprive creation of your purpose for BEing here.

In this dance, hides, also: The Lover, and The Loved.

Yang is DOing. Everybody wants you when you’re busy. Because they can’t have you, can’t catch you.
Yin is the BEing; The Lover… receiving all the Beauty and Grace of The DOer.

Yet, one who does, and does not know why, becomes startled in the mirror of the one who watches – receives – and is uncomfortably reminded of their Being – whom they are likely to have forgotten. Or worse: whom they avoid.

The Lover, on the other hand, is so good at Being – but no one turns around from their Doing. All the Beautiful things the Lover has Witnessed eventually grow to have no outlet, though they reach; The Lover and The Loved belong to one another, but without The Dance, The Sun never witnesses the Wisdom of The Moon…

They are the reflection of each other; on whom does the Sun shine, if there is no body? No container?

If you want someone to Love you, you *have* to turn around.

(and around, and around, and around… *~@~*)

The Art of Life is in our ability to Do-be-do-be-do…


TRIBAL DANCE WORKSHOP: “The Love Dance with Ourselves” *Guest Post by Rebecca Cook*

Sacred Sexuality ~ The Love Dance with Ourselves
by Rebecca Cook

We are Sacred Sexual beings, we were created this way. To make manifest our greatest and highest selves. To be the best we can be … which has nothing to do with being in a relationship … or having sex. It means, as a woman, to honor the sacred feminine within, the Sacred Goddess within our deepest internal space, and whatever that means for us personally. You may choose to be in a sexual relationship, or you may choose not to. There is no right or wrong to any type of relationship. Whatever you choose and what is your own intent is that which we all need to be aware of.

Being clear of your own intentions towards yourself, and your choices, empowered as a woman to do your own thing, whatever that is, and  being clear on your intent towards others, your partner , or loved ones. Allowing yourself to be who you are in your highest form…. And being aware that that can change at times too. And that’s ok.

Who am I ….

what do I stand for…

what is my purpose on the world,

I recognize that I create my own happiness, my own highest good. And the good of all my loved ones, for our tribe, for the good of all humanity. We all want this, surely?

Allow unfoldment in your life, not control, gentle unfoldment, acceptance of your own truth and how that expands.

Being totally honest with yourself is the way to higher consciousness, unfolding as a rose, from bud to fullest flower.

Your feminine power is a well of delicious beauty and wholeness, ready for you to activate and dive into, without fear. The fire at the base chakra of your being, is the Kundalini rising, and as a whole the power of all women is being felt in the world for our healing qualities. The time of honoring the Goddess, the great Mother, is now ~ And the feminine force of the great SHI in all of us. Long before Christianity, the Great Goddess was revered:
”A Woman Warrior was honored and valued, member of the tribe, as all Women were, as an aspect of the Great Mother.” ~ Lynne Sinclair Wood… I love that  that … “As all women were….”

The sacred and ancient expression of dance, is both sensual, and sexual, tuning in to the beat of the music, the beat of the divine, the heart beat of the Mother Earth, and the Wildness of Father Sky..… Creation itself~~~ is sexual ~ How can it not be? Male and Female ~ The God and The Goddess … Shiva and Shakti …. Celebrate who you are as a sexual and  sensual being~~~ with and in no fear ~ only Love.

 In Ancient times, the Women danced for other women purely as an expression of Femininity and their own empowerment ~~ don’t we women love to dance…  some sensual drum beats, fine music, and we women start to move … and get it on … this happens in all cultures across the world … for the pure joy of it …this is how we honor the feminine force sometimes without even realizing it.

So realize and release this joy, with intent, and honor your Sacred sexuality with the Tribal Dance.

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Dance, when you’re broken open;
Dance, if you’ve torn the bandage off;
Dance in the middle of the fighting;
Dance in your blood;
Dance, when you’re perfectly free.

~Rumi~

Rebecca Cook~


The Language of Love

*~ WE ARE ALL BATHED IN THE SAME LIGHT ~*

Every One is Loving you in their own way – whether you notice or not.

What is your “Love Language”?
Learn to speak them all, and watch your relationships *~ Bloom ~* evergreen, all around you!

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Important to note, is that depending on one’s “Love Style” certain unkindnesses will not phase one, while those same unkindnesses will destroy another.

According to Gary Chapman, here are the 5 Love Languages:

* WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
* ACTS OF SERVICE
* RECEIVING GIFTS
* QUALITY TIME
* PHYSICAL TOUCH

WORDS:
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up.

SERVICE:
Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. When others serve you out of love (and not obligation), you feel truly valued and loved.

GIFTS:
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are heartfelt symbols to you of someone else’s love and affection for you.

PRESENCE:
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time talking with someone else or doing activities together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.

TOUCH:
A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you.
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REAL LIFE:
Personal: My LL’s are equal PRESENCE and AFFECTION.
I cannot imagine a better way to Celebrate Life!
REALLY *HERE* – with You!

Also, my presence, and time, *is* my gift – my Life, an Act of Service.

(“Gifts” and “Words” do not *transmit* Love to me. However, I am aware that people are Loving me in their own way, so I embrace it all – hu am I to be the dam in Love’s River? I Love to communicate in ANY language I can discover, at all.)

I was once in a relationship (? <~ monoship?) with a Beast.
He was extremely verbally abusive, a bully, and a stoner (Absence is a killer for a person of Presence… running away, being distracted, out of it, non-communicative – are all offensive to Presence).

Luckily for me, his “words” did not scar me, because that is my non-Love Language.
Just the repelling nature of his character was enough.
His next girlfriend was not so lucky, with her Loving Words…
he also added violence to that mix, and his very existence offended me. (on a side note, in his ugliness, I saw my beauty, and I got a first-hand look at just how bad the human condition was upon the Earth.)

As a person of Affection, things like rape, violence, and physical abuse are devastating, and practically unforgivable.
Even coldness, hurts.
Anything harsh on the sensory being.

-we are all so delicate in Love.

For a person of words, and gifts, nasty words, meanness,  and the ‘taking back of gifts’, or  taking of material possessions hurts (hmm… now I know why my Mum was always harping on about that camera incident… her main language is “Gifts”).

Family:
I’d be talking to my Mum, and she’d be writing a thesis, or something. Distracted (according to me), and keeps asking me to do the dishes – for my Mum, Service, and Gifts are her language; she’d be giving me a million cute things I don’t want, that I’d keep just because she gave them to me, and they emanated with her Love -but I just want conversation and hugs!

Eventually when I saw the way that we Expressed Love, differently, existence became clear!

In true fashion to a person of Service, making more work for her – existing; having dinner, using a plate, or -yeah, just existing, was like, really annoying for her!

My sister, on the other hand, is like Words, Gifts, and Service. Can’t stand hugging. It was a bit shit for me to grow up with people that don’t speak my language, but hey – we Live.

As I’m sure it was shit for them to just have me “hanging around” with my presence, when they are hungry for precious, thoughtful words, or personalised, meaningful gifts and service.

*~ Here I am! ~* I’d say with bated, open arms…

Lol – families.

(on a side note, in the same degree of Virgo, is my Saturn, sister’s Mercury, Mum’s Moon, and Dad’s Sun. As soon as I learned that, I was like: what an awfully harsh, cold, constrictive child I must have felt to my Mum’s soft Moon.
And my sister must have felt her freedom of expression extremely silenced by the patriarchal rule of my Saturn. I had to learn to speak softer to them.
Dad, on the other hand, found me to be more of a Teacher to him.)

Family dynamics are fascinating.
Please share your stories, below, if you feel like it – you know how I Love “Quality Time”!

*~ Service is the Highest Act of Love ~*
*~ Service is the Highest Act of Love ~*
*~ Service is the Highest Act of Love ~*

It is Transcendent.
To Serve from Love – not slavery.

– In my case, it’s more of a “give you what you need – not what you want”; I’m transformational, that way 😉
I’m not afraid of a little Tuff Love.

Take your own Love for a test-drive, here:
(the quiz is kind of… inefficient, but hey – who doesn’t Love a quiz!?)
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/