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THE HIGH ROAD vs THE LOW ROAD

This post is inspired by a chat I was having about something JEFF BROWN wrote:


Are You in a Conscious Relationship?

One of the beautiful things about the conscious relationship movement is that couples stay together and work things through when the shadow arises between them.

Where before many people gave up on relationships that became difficult, we now understand that we all have unresolved issues and patterns that are brought to light in powerful love connections.

Like a flashlight to the dark crevices of our consciousness, that which is not yet healed reveals itself to be resolved.

To walk away from those connections is to delay our own expansion.
At the same time, some of us make the mistake of thinking that we must attempt to work through every relationship that excavates the shadow.

This is particularly true for those with co-dependent tendencies because they are constantly looking for reasons to remain fused, even if they are beyond the point of resolving their differences.
Conscious relationship does not mean that every relationship is worthy of our conscious attention.

Some are exactly what the soul doctor ordered, and others are deeply unhealthy.

The art form of relatedness is distinguishing between the two. ॐ
~Jeff Brown

Particularly, I had this to say:

“Where before many people gave up on relationships that became difficult, we now understand that we all have unresolved issues and patterns that are brought to light in powerful love connections.

To walk away from those connections is to delay our own expansion.

At the same time, some of us make the mistake of thinking that we must attempt to work through every relationship that excavates the shadow.”

Such a voice of Clarity on the Power of Love. (Jeff is GREAT – a Cure for the psychic pollution of “the New Age”)

Escapism; Denial; Co-dependence; Shrinking; Fear…

Le Couer… COURAGE. Is not the absence of fear.

Love knows what it’s doing, and I wish people would remember to Surrender to that.

The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.
You hurt others, you hurt yourself. You enable bad behaviour.

Toxic partners are poison. You have a duty to the future to make them aware of their True Reflection; to leave them better than you found them – but to LEAVE them.
Nothing grows in toxic foundations; everything dies. Including you.

“The Secret Ingredient here, is: Boundaries.

 

Boundaries are an Art of Measure.”

The Secret Ingredient here, is: Boundaries.
Boundaries are an Art of Measure.
Some people’s Boundaries are too tight, and others’ are too loose.
And I am writing this, to elaborate on all of that.

Too loose, and you’re hurting yourself.
Too tight, and you’re hurting others.

IN RELATIONSHIP, “THE LESSON” IS ALWAYS BOUNDARIES.
Fast-Forward to your Graduation!
You may now stop re-living the same nightmare over and over with other partners, in order to “learn that lesson”.

POWERFUL LOVE IS HEALING:
It exposes our Shadows, to others, to ourselves. True Love is Illuminating, and Penetrating.
It brings you Clarity.
It is your Mirror.
“To walk away from those connections is to delay our own expansion.

…cowards.
Point being: not ‘just’ your expansion…

THE HIGH ROAD vs THE LOW ROAD
We EXPAND into The High Road.
We CONTRACT into The Low Road.

The High Road, is the path that is Aligned with The Grand Design.
I don’t have time to debate whether there is or isn’t a Grand Design – there is. You will download that realisation once you become realised. Look at the little pentagon when you pluck a grape from the vine.

The High Road is MACRO-Vision. The Medicine of The Eagle. The Eternal Soul. Cause and Effect. The Great Cycles.
“As Above, So Below”
The Low Road is MICRO-Vision. Simply; your little world, with your job, and your friends, and your house, and your family. You, You, You, Mine, Mine, Mine: The Ego. Your name and temporary person, who is destined to die.

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“I Love a Man that turns around.”

MACRO-Vision can see the whole picture; the above, and the below.
MICRO-Vision sees only ‘the below’; the potential for separate things. It has NO COMPREHENSION of the Cohesive Macro-Vision.

To travel The Low Road, is to live, and die, and make very little impression upon any other living thing. Not even your offspring; life’s default back-up programme is it’s Lust for itself. (It would just be nicer if it were ‘conscious’.)
Unfortunately, this ‘default’ pattern has been repeating over the aeons (Samsara), and severe damage is being done to our Host-Planet. Unconscious Impressions. Either the entities who run, design, and perpetuate this civilisation are micro-focused, OR they are evil aliens with a precise agenda. Whatever it is, it is NOT good. But only Macro-Vision can see that.
So, just like those who’ve gone before, you’re welcome to The Low Road if that is your wish.
It’s a little bit like a movie… it’s fun, it ends. You die.

To travel The High Road, is to EXPAND into the Unknown. Nothing is certain, except that your Life will ripple out and touch the Lives of others.

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“Moira” is The High Road

The High Road is Aligned with the Grand Design. It is not the way of Ego and Control. It is the Path of Surrender.
– and That is The Great Big Fear.
Surrender.
Of the Ego, to your Soul.
All you do, is switch pilots…

Face to face with another – consciously – is the greatest Potential Expansion there is.
Facing your TRUE SELF in the Mirror. *note: NOT projections. That is UNconscious, and annoying.

Anyone who doesn’t want you because you’re “too damaged” (from before learning about your Lovingly loose boundaries) can go fuck themselves.
They are AFRAID OF THEMSELVES. Not sweet beautiful you. ❤
They don’t want to grow up.
They want Sunshine all the time, happiness, and laughter, “easyness” – not the Raw Unedited Truth of Existence.
They don’t want to look in the mirror – they want to project UNreality on to you. Don’t allow it.
Or worse: they’re just an asshole. Here’s hoping they never have a Pluto Transit.

* please note: if you *think* you’re in Love with someone, and they’re not returning it, one of two things is happening:
1) Your Ego is driving; your radar is off: you are lost, and actually just obsessed, hungry, or desperate – and it isn’t Love. It’s just attraction, trying to show you your way back to yourself. You’re not seeing ‘clearly’.
2) Their Boundaries are too tight, they are rejecting LOVE TRUTH CLARITY – not you – and you will have to “Return To Sender” to get on with the re-calibration of the Universe.

It is constantly recalibrating; you can trust it. That's why everything is in perfect order; or will be, again. Hang on to your True Self; your *~ glittering ~* way; the golden thread; your Bliss. OM *~ <3 ~*

It is constantly recalibrating; you can trust it.
That’s why everything is in perfect order; or will be, again.
Hang on to your True Self; your *~ glittering ~* way; the golden thread; your Bliss.
OM

It is in Surrender, that we are filled with the flow of “The Absolute Power”.
Let’s call it “Love”.

Love is a River, and it has it’s destination.

That’s why it is possible to be a vessel of Love.
Ultimately, “Love will save you.”
That’s why “The Lover is The Saviour.”
*please remember that True Spiritual Ecstasy was hijacked by the church. Love is God. Lovers are Saints.

(I Love Fan Videos. 🙂 People put their Heart in them) …*Note: “Prayer to St. Francis” by Sarah McLachlan is not available in Australia. 😦

ATTRACTION

To quote myself:

“Love knows what it’s doing, and I wish people would remember to Surrender to that.

The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.
You hurt others, you hurt yourself. You enable bad behaviour.”

Back to BOUNDARIES:
These are the Tai Chi ~ the on/off ~ the towards and away ~ Giving and Receiving ~ The Art of Relating.

IF YOUR BOUNDARIES ARE TOO LOOSE: You hurt yourself.
How?
Too much GIVING, not enough SELF-Giving, and RECEIVING what YOU want.
Where is the Self-Love?
Would you let someone treat you this way?
You deserve to be Loved the way you Love.
The Lesson is always Boundaries.
Loose is the Way of the Lover.
The Way of Trust. Openness…
The Unconditional acceptance.
The Ever-Giving Heart.
You are enabling bad behaviour every minute you allow yourself to be disrespected. You aren’t helping them; you are teaching them that it’s ok to treat people this way. And they will continue to do it to others – don’t you want to protect the world from being treated like that?
Don’t you want to stop it in its tracks?
You are stunting your growth on a child in an adult-body. You are lowering yourself to help them up. They don’t want to come up, and will cut you down every time you try.
You deserve an equal.
“But if no-one helps them, who will?”
You have obviously never heard the tale of the drowning person who WILL drown you, too.
Say it with me: “I Am a Lighthouse. Not Search & Rescue. I Am a Lighthouse. Not Search & Rescue. I AM A LIGHTHOUSE. NOT SEARCH & RESCUE.
If they wont meet you in The Sacred Middle, where are you?
You’re in THEIR world.
We need you here, in Alignment.
The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.”

IF YOUR BOUNDARIES ARE TOO TIGHT: You hurt others.
How? – do you even care? lol
Maybe you do, maybe you don’t; there are two of you, or you’re often ‘split’.
Maybe you give what you want to give – but not necessarily what others want, or need.
Maybe you don’t receive what others want to give you.
If you Love to give – and be received – then receiving is a gift, too. You should try it sometime…
That includes really listening; not just hearing what you want to hear.
Did you ever think that people might actually need you?
That you really are that valuable.
That you matter more to The Universe than you think you do?
You are shutting the world OUT.
Depriving it of Alignment. Whether you can see it or not, you are. Starving it of your Unique Essence.
You are single-handedly preventing Expansion of The Universe. You are that important.
With Boundaries too tight, you are the Living Embodiment of The Low Road. Deaf, even.
Not everything is about what you want; you have so much to offer others about Boundaries… about things we don’t even know.
You are Tantra waiting to happen.
The Flow needs you to open up and let it in.
We need you, here.
If you chose CONTRACTION – or ended up that way – you’re just afraid. Wounded. We all are. And the more out of alignment we are with The Grand Design, the longer we remain wounded…
Relax.
Breathe in Contraction, Breathe Out Expansion.
Breathe in Contraction, Breathe Out Expansion.
Breathe in Contraction, Breathe Out Expansion.
Do that all night.
Open up.
Find someone you can trust, and just start a conversation… start to learn who is expansive, and who contracts.
Protect Expansion, and Heal Contraction. Treat them how you may have wanted someone to treat you in your contracted state.
Go into their world, and pull them out.
Leave at the first sign of drowning, but don’t give-up on those who are learning to swim.

* please note: there is nothing wrong with privacy and alone-time. That is the Art of “Healthy Boundaries”.
While The Low Road may hide in constant comfort and paralysing safety, it’s not like “you can never rest on The High Road!”
That’s what The Art of Sanctuary is about; take a moment, go backstage, replenish, refresh, restore, re-script, recalibrate, re-womb. Rest. Dream… and be reborn.

THEN THERE ARE THE COMPLACENT ONES:
You know you don’t belong together, yet, nothing better is going on And you’re so comfortable.
You are both enabling the misalignment of The Universe.
You are robbing other people of their “perfect match” by occupying space you know you don’t belong in.
The more time you spend with the wrong people, the longer the world is out of alignment.

If your radar is ‘off’, it will be your Ego in the Driver’s Seat. “Lusting”. Cheap Thrills, Ego Boosts, and Power Games.
Ego relationships rule the Microcosm. They shut-out the FLOW for fear of disruption, of loss, and change.You can be in charge of your micro-cosm, to a certain ‘comfortable’ degree of compromise.

When you Love someone, do you fear their shadows? NO.
Then why would someone not be capable of Loving yours?

“Healthy Boundaries”

Or as my X-Beast used to howl: “What’s the point in doing all this if no one else is doing it!”. He just wanted to drink Pepsi and race cars. “I don’t wanna know! I just wanna make mistakes and figure it out myself!!”
“I’ll see you at the Finish-Line.” I told him. I don’t think he got it; like, I’m already there. Waiting.

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8 responses

  1. tamara

    Love it Mardi!

    February 8, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    • Thank you, Tamara! xx

      February 9, 2015 at 5:50 am

  2. bsneddon51

    jUPITER – expansion
    SATURN – contraction
    The two clashing rocks on the heads going from the straight out into the unconscious; deeper unchartered waters where the outer planets roam. From the Odyssey, and CS Lewis, The Voyage of the Dawn Treader.

    February 9, 2015 at 7:13 am

    • EXACTLY. Speaking my language.

      February 9, 2015 at 10:40 am

      • bsneddon51

        It’s all there in the classics. Herodotus may be too much for many wearing wigs and claiming some status over red wine at the club on Fridays…. but please at least get immersed in Homer. That Demetriou flog actually laughed in the Supreme Court last year about his ignorance of Homer and tied to bully Australian reporter Chip Le Grande. Imagine laughing at the golden age of his own parent’s people and being proud of his ignorance for he has mastered the colour…. always watch the political bent of men who are slaves to the colour (gold). All are equal according to the colour but it is a demon they wish they never awoke. The Iliad, I believe, is a narration of the skies above the beaches of Hisalik during the nights of the 10 years that Agamemnon and his armies were on the shores of Priam’s city…

        February 9, 2015 at 2:06 pm

  3. bsneddon51

    Good article. I like your blog and the issues you raise for discussion, not to mention the manner by which you raise them. I might post something on my blog now…

    February 9, 2015 at 7:14 am

    • Thank you, B51!
      Please add a link to your new post when it’s ready, right here. 🙂

      February 9, 2015 at 10:39 am

      • bsneddon51

        Cheers. bsneddon51.wordpress.com
        That is where the blog is. Not sure how to put a link up to it. I usually put it out across facebook too. I put up another one for a bloke who works with me that can be found at stumander.wordpress
        If you have the time resources feel free to read through as much as you can of both and feel free to discuss. Robert Plant said it beautifully at the end of the Rain Song… 😉

        February 9, 2015 at 2:00 pm

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